Sunday, October 27, 2013

Adventures in Crete Continued...


Well we made it to Tuscany! Before I give details I'll go back to where I left off when we were off to the Crete Botanical Gardens. The botanical gardens are located where the oldest olive orchards in Crete (oil) were and they lost 60,000 trees in a fire in 2004 (400 year old trees). They decided to create this beautiful garden in its place.  We started the day with the most amazing meal at the garden's restaurant and shared three different specials. This was one of the best meals we had in Crete. They use many of the products grown right there. At the end of the meal, there was the traditional food gift and in this case it was the most beautiful plate of fruit (figs, blue lilly pilly, fresh gogi berries, oranges, grapes, Suriname cherries) and then we paid our 5 euros received a frozen bottle of water each and started out trek into this stunning garden. Most of the plants are also grown in Hawaii so it was fun to recognize many of the trees and bushes.

The next day we drove around in the morning and looked at the beaches that were quite close to Chania Town to the west and then returned the car. The beaches all have the traditional umbrellas and lounge chairs for rent. After living in Hawaii the beaches were pretty unimpressive.

One of the things that struck me about Chania was the transition between town and city is so quick. When we walk over to the bustling city to grocery shop in the produce store, the bakery, the grocery store, it is a big city with traffic all over the place and people filling the sidewalks. The pace of the world changes dramatically when you walk a few blocks into Old Town with the meandering alleys and little old ladies dressed in black sitting in chairs watching their very small world go by.

On October 9th we woke up and Randy had not really turned 60 yet as it was still October 8th in Hawaii, but we decided to celebrate anyway. We started out with a breakfast at our favorite waterfront restaurant, Porto Veneziano, which is a small hotel and exquisite. They had a delicious buffet for 10 euros that included cappuccino, espresso, and everything you would want for a breakfast (fresh oj, local cheese and olives, goat or cow yoghurt, fresh breads, pasteries, eggs, wild sage honey, etc.), then walked over to Dr. Fish. Their slogan is "For once, you're the fish food!" Just to give you an idea of what I'm talking about, there are two or three of these shops on every block on Crete. They have tanks of little fish which eat the dead skin off of your feet. Susan and I dangled our feet in a tank each (it tickles) and Randy received a birthday pedicure by a charming young Greek woman. We walked home for a lunch of baklava and then headed back to the harbour for a sailing trip with Captain Nick. BTW both Dr. Fish and Captain Nick were number one on TripAdvisor, deservedly so. Captain Nick has a glass bottom boat and took us on a two hour cruise with people from Finland, Prince Edward Island, Argentina, etc. (Crete has 85% of their tourism from Scandinavia). We sailed out to Thodorou, the nature reserve island where the wild Kri Kri goats are being protected. Susan and I went for a swim (we started out snorkeling but we're from Hawaii so it was ....). The water was clean and clear and really quite warm. Captain Nick found an octopus and put it on our shoulders so Randy could take a picture. It was pretty exciting to be swimming in the Cretan Sea in the Mediterranean. We safely returned to the harbor, made our way through the alleys back to the house to rest and get ready for dinner. Another number one on TripAdvisor, Chrisostomos, which was so ono we were giddy eating. Susan and I had lamb and it was bar none the best lamb either of us had had in our lives. Randy had delicious goat. Both slow cooked in their wood-burning oven. The bread was unbelievable!!! We kept trying to get the other patrons to join in our pleasure. They were a serious group and probably thought we were annoying, but we didn't care. Besides it was a very important celebration!

The next morning we walked up to the car rental agency and rented a car for the last two days. We had a bit of a late start and headed out to see the most beautiful beach in Crete and some people say in all of Europe, Elafonissi. This was the beach that we had been searching for at the beginning of our trip and couldn't get there from where we were. This time we took the coast road and twisted and turned our way south through a road that changed from one to two lanes at random with amazing views all the way to Elafonissi. We parked at the beach, walked down a short boardwalk and rented three loungers and an umbrella. We took a tasty picnic lunch, enjoyed the scenery, Susan and I swam in the warm Libyan Sea, Randy enjoyed conversing with the money collector and it was a blissful afternoon with the pink sand. We walked out through the shallow water past the lagoon and swam in the ocean as well. I had asked the money collector if there was another way back to Chania Town as the trip there had been a little more adventuresome than I like and he had suggested going through the greenest part of Chania (Chania is a town and a prefecture (like a County - there are four prefectures on Crete). This route was the way the locals went home so I imagined it would be less harrowing and faster. WRONG! Talk about adventure. The main highway is partially closed for work so this is a temporary detour. We were aware of the closure but didn't expect the experience of narrow roads, twists, steep ups and downs, goats, rocks, potholes, little teeny towns where you are driving a few feet from the houses on either side. We slowly made our way, changing juxtaposition with a few cars as we headed for Chania Town.

Now, the claim to fame of Elafonissi is the only time where TripAdvisor steered us wrong. We certainly enjoyed our day, but there are several beaches on Kauai that rival Elafonissi. We discovered the most beautiful beach that any of us had every been to on our last day in Crete. Balos Beach rivals The Beach in the movie. There are very few ways to describe this magical place. This last day made the fantasy of Crete become reality. It has shallow waters, the sea is warm with bright blue and turquoise, every shade of blue imaginable and then some, pink hued sand. What word describes breathtaking with heavy breathing? There is a trick to Balos though. The average person would take a ferry and arrive in the early afternoon with hundreds (thousands in the summer) of other people. The adventurous would take the car on a road that some claim need four wheel drive (obviously have never driven to Mahaulepu in a Porsche). We headed out early down along the north coast, the same way as the day before, stopping for the most scrumptious pastry on the way, turned up a peninsula, drove through a town (estimated population of ten), paid our two euros each, and drove down seven kilometers (about 5 miles) of dirt road along the coast, parked (we were car number four) and started the "twenty minute" trek. Probably more like forty after talking to the goats, listening to the chimes from their bells, and suddenly reaching a point where you are overlooking the most incredible beach you can imagine. We walked down hundreds of uneven stone stairs, snapping pictures the whole way, and arrived at the beach. Some of the staff were walking down with us and we picked our place while the loungers were being set up under the umbrellas. The water is shallow and warm and colorful. Hawaii's ocean color pales compared to this sight. I just hope we captured it in our pictures (to be posted soon). We enjoyed the day, ate (left-over) lamb sandwiches, drank wine, bought beer at the taverna and just walked around, swam and did what we envisioned in our dreams of Crete before the reality. Now, with a lighter load and after the large ferry kissed the shore so the hundreds of "ants" could descend upon us by walking off a gangplank. It was pretty interesting to watch a ferry come so close to shore that people could actually walk off to the beach. They were in the distance. About 2:30 we decided that most of the cars would be heading out as there were parts of the seven kilometers that would be interesting to say the least if passing on the road was necessary. We started our walk up which was reminiscent of the Battaan Death March we experienced with Reg and Sarah in Santorini in 2001. I've got to say we three old goats did pretty well and even some of the young'uns were having their own challenges. When we reached the car there were at least a hundred cars left in the parking lot. What an amazing day! We drove home, packed, ate a dinner made up of some of the wonderful items in the fridge and headed back to our favorite little hotel to have a drink of Ouzo and toast our 12 night adventure on the island of Crete and anticipate the week in Tuscany.

Now, I've rambled long enough so I'll fill you in on Tuscany soon. We LOVE the house, the awe-inspiring scenery, the little town and in some ways wish we had stayed here the whole time, but then I wouldn't have had the adventure to share of Crete.

By: Linda Sylvester

Let Yourself Off the Hook, An Article

http://everydayfeminism.com/2013/10/let-yourself-off-the-hook/?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+EverydayFeminism+%28Everyday+Feminism%29

10 Things Cosmo Doesn't Teach About Sex, An Article

I'm posting this article because as a teenager that was highly curious about sex, as they are, Cosmo magazine was my go to. I'm still working on reprogramming my mindset about my sexuality to this day.

http://everydayfeminism.com/2013/10/cosmo-doesnt-teach-about-sex/?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+EverydayFeminism+%28Everyday+Feminism%29

The Number of People You've Slept With Isn't Important, An Article

http://everydayfeminism.com/2012/12/why-the-number-of-people-youve-slept-with-isnt-important/

Thursday, October 24, 2013

10 ways I keep myself happy

1. Getting more familiar with music so that I can match it to my mood. I've realized that music, like dance and movement, can be a tool to help me work through emotions and deeper senses that are hard to access with my thoughts.

2. Working out. Strengthening different muscles, moving in new ways bring awareness to different parts of my body that I've forgotten about.

3. I've recently been drawing with some colour pencils that I found forgotten in a drawer. I don't usually do much drawing, but I leave them out on my floor and over a week or so a beautiful drawing develops. The process makes me feel engaged and positive.

4. I try to play the piano at least once a day, even if it's for a couple of minutes. Sometimes it ends up being longer and I improvise around. I'm not in a hurry to be good at it, I just do it for enjoyment sake. Getting better at it bring me satisfaction over time, like a time release capsule.

5. Whenever I drive, which I don't really enjoy, I sing to myself. Practicing using the diaphragm, rather than my throat and being silly and seeing how high I can pitch my high notes.

6. When I'm riding the bus I meditate, checking in with myself and attempting to dispel negative thoughts and just focus on the essentials. Like how I feel about the implementation of Obamacare.

7. I pet the dog and try to walk him at least once a day to keep active and apparently petting animals is good therapy.

8. I'm going to counselling. I want to improve my relationships with my parents. I believe they are the root of all my relationships, the one's which I refer to as I go through life trying to navigate new relationships all the time.

9. I eat healthfully. I love vegetables. I make a mean salad with all the extra goodies. I  pack myself a lunch most days to make sure I have the energy to make it through the day.

10. I work a job that I enjoy. I'm obtaining a skill that I believe will be useful in one way or another throughout my life (bicycle mechanics) and find satisfaction in a good tune up, frame sparkling, gears changing smoothly and gracefully, everything aligned.

By: Rose Sylvester

Coralee

By: Susan Leininger

In the news today...

http://www.npr.org/blogs/parallels/2013/10/24/240491843/saudi-women-go-for-a-spin-in-latest-challenge-to-driving-ban

Wednesday, October 23, 2013

Adventures in Crete


The three of us are sitting up on the roof drinking coffee, listening to the church bells. There is an old mosque and a church right next to each other behind the house. Not the usual combination. I can see sea glimpses of blue in front of me. The streets are being cleaned. Someone goes around and sweeps all of the alleys every morning and they have machines to clean the streets. We have a car parked in the alley behind us so we're going out for another adventure today. Travelling is an adventure. There is always those choices of taking a cruise, staying in a hotel or staying in a vacation rental. They all have their pluses and minuses. We didn't have hot water due to plumbing issues the first few days and then the sun wasn't out enough and we didn't realize there is back up until yesterday. "Didn't read the book." Not all of you will get the irony of that statement because you don't make fun of visitors for not reading the book on a daily basis at work. But I have to give myself a little slack in this case as there are three books and they are in terrible disarray.

We love the vacation rental choice because we are in the neighborhood with the people and can enjoy these moments of sitting on the roof drinking coffee, having dinner and breakfast at home. Yesterday we had baklava, Greek yogurt (same brand we get at home which is amusing) and fresh fruit. Randy cooked squid on the BBQ the other night and has leftovers as it's not our forte. Randy is extremely adventuresome with food, Susan next and I'm the least. He has eaten goat, rabbit, snails all of which Susan tried. I tasted the goat.

I left off after our first road trip which was on Thursday. Friday we decided to drive east. We were going to go to a Palace of Knossos with 1200 rooms, but when we were driving by we realized the cruise ships were on their excursions and there were so many people we decided to skip it justifying it with "we've been to Versailles," which I know is not remotely the same, but it worked for us. We drove through many little towns and headed for Randy's favorite Crete winery, Lyrarakis. It was a beautiful winery and the young lady there said we were the first people from Hawaii that she had ever met. I guess we now represent the typical Hawaiian family :) Randy bought enough wine for the rest of our stay here (I'll leave the amount up to your imaginations) and had a very giddy time doing so. The scenery is brown mountains, blue ocean, tiny mountainous towns and large cities. While on our way to the winery we stopped at a vegetable/fruit stand and bought the most amazing produce. Grocery stores are extremely inexpensive (a quarter of what we pay in Hawaii) and the restaurants are comparable to Hawaii. Thus a good reason to stay in a vacation rental!

Driving is fairly easy outside of the cities as long as you keep your eyes open for goats, etc. in the middle of the road around the curve or a car that decided to stop in the middle of the road. Getting into the city and finding our alley makes for a lot of huge deep breaths and anxiety, but staying here for a while and getting the lay of the land has made each time a little bit easier.

We took Saturday off and walked to the art gallery to see the latest weird exhibit, ate gelato for breakfast and went to a beautiful ocean front restaurant after walking along many cobble stones to the lighthouse and back for adventure and exercise. Sitting in the ocean front cafes are a great place for people watching. I think most of the visitors are from Europe, all ages and some enjoying horse driven coach rides through the Old Town. We are staying in Old Town which is small and mostly a walking area although you do dodge a few cars and mopeds, but we are only ten minutes from the city where the locals shop.

Yesterday we took Maria's advice (one of my owner's associates) and headed for Hora Sfakion and Frangokastello, port side towns on the Libyan sea east of where we were on Thursday. The scenery is not as varied as Kauai (big point for Kauai), but beautiful in its own way. There are spectacular mountain and ocean views along the steep switchback highways. I only got glimpses as one needs 100% attention when driving here. The highlight of yesterday was Dourakis Winery where we met the owner Andreas who was totally charming. There were two little art galleries there and they have 24 cats and 7 dogs. The few cats we saw were beautiful. Randy bought wine (don't ask) and was suggesting one more wine tour which got a resounding "NO" from Susan and I.

Soon we will be heading off to the Botantical Gardens and surrounding areas. Another adventure to be described at a later time.

By: Linda Sylvester

Thursday, October 17, 2013

A Documentary

http://www.kickstarter.com/projects/detropiathefilm/detropia-were-releasing-our-doc-independently?ref=c2dgwp

A Realization


"I’m finally getting to a point where when I east a bunch of junk food, I’m more concerned with my health than weather or not I’m fat. I consider this a win. My next feat is to do with playing music. I want to get to a point when I’m not longer concerned with sounding good, but to be focused on enjoying myself."




-Rose

Thursday, October 10, 2013

10 ways to overcome sleeping with people that you shouldn't


1. Get to know someone before becoming intimate. Spend time together, if they’re putting pressure on you to have sex then they’re definitely a creep anyway.
2. Listen to your gut instincts.
3. Don’t put yourself in situations where sex is a possibility. Say public at first. Be careful how much alcohol you imbibe when you’re still getting to know someone. Have a friend around to back you up.
4. Meditate, be creative, spend an hour a day doing something that you enjoy. The better you know yourself and the more comfortable with yourself you are, the louder your instincts become.
5. Know that sex can be fun. That you should be comfortable. Laughter and eye contact are natural ways of connecting during sex.
6. Masturbate. Have fun. Experiment. If you don’t know how to get yourself off, then how are you going to teach someone else?
7. When you’re feeling really randy and you’re not up for masturbating, then do something physical: walk, run, ride your bike. Physical activity of any kind releases the same endorphins.
8. Live at home for a few months. There’s no better way to kill your sex life than having your parents breathing down your neck every day. 
9. Plan an adventure with a friend. Get excited! Do a bunch of research and email each other some good links.
10. Anyone else have any suggestions?
I’ve spent all my romantic life struggling through one sexual encounter after another, trying to figure it out. I told myself that I was horny and that I ‘needed’ to get laid, but I almost always felt bad about myself afterwards, whether it be immediately or a few days following. It’s been very difficult for me to break this pattern, and I still don’t know if I really have completely. I get lonely at times and it seems to happen again and again, like a broken record. 
I’ve been told a variety of times that I “just need to love myself”. But I’ve realized that this is not something that I can do overnight. I remember as a teenager I spent a lot of time hating myself and it’s taken a lot of work to reprogram those messages. So I just try to be patient with myself. 
It sucks to feel like I can’t trust myself when I make choices about sex and that I could have slept with so many people, while feeling like trash afterwards.  The part of me that completed these actions feels separate from me and at times it feels like I’m not able to communicate and reason with this entity. One day at a time I will keep trying to feel loved, so that I don’t end up in another bed due to feeling desperate and lonely. I work toward finding satisfaction in other parts of my life.
I believe that romance and good sex can’t be forced. It just happens sometimes.
By: Anonymous

Sex 101

Just because we've had sex before doesn't mean that we can't have a second 'first time' if we were unsatisfied with our initial approach:


http://everydayfeminism.com/2013/06/your-first-time-girls/